About this episode
?? Healing doesn’t begin with answers. It begins with awareness of the body, the patterns, and the stories we’ve been carrying far longer than we realize.In this deeply reflective episode of The Forties Formula podcast, hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with NUR ADAM, , a trauma-informed therapist and somatic healing practitioner, to explore the powerful and often misunderstood dynamics of the mother–daughter relationship. Nur explains how our earliest experiences shape the nervous system, influence our sense of safety, and quietly guide how we show up in relationships throughout life. This episode also introduces somatic healing tools that help the nervous system process what it couldn’t before and what it truly means to become the parent you always needed for yourself. Tune in for an honest, grounding conversation that brings clarity to complex family dynamics and offers a gentler, body-led path to healing. This episode is a reminder that thriving in your forties isn’t about erasing the past, it’s about building safety within, one regulated moment at a time.---------CHAPTERS00:00 – Episode Snippet00:47 – Introducing our guest, Nur Adam02:18 – Why the mother–daughter relationship feels so intense09:59 – Provision vs emotional connection12:51 – Advertisement: Love, Indus13:39 – How unhealed trauma shows up in the body23:43 – Titration, pendulation, and resourcing26:20 – Why slow healing is safer and more effective30:50 – Advertisement: Cozy Earth32:08 – Self-regulation before repairing relationships34:00 – Signs of a healthy and secure mother–daughter bond36:08 – Fuel Your Forties: How food impacts nervous system regulation38:15 – Emotional eating as a form of escapism39:20 – What led Nur into trauma and somatic healing work41:20 – Hot or Hype Segment43:14 – The 40s Formula: curiosity, play, and nervous system regulationSpecial Thanks to Our Sponsors:? The Meat Club – Get $20 off with code TFF20?? Cozy Earth – Sleep comfortably with soft bamboo sheets and cozy pajamas. Use code TFF for 41% off. Free shipping in Singapore over $560 and in the US over $50.??
