About this episode
Hey Parents,Have you ever asked your daughter how she’s doing and heard something like … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand!”As you’re working through the ‘letting go’ and ‘losing control’ part of raising a teenager (two of the toughest parts if you ask me), getting a non-answer when you’re trying to connect is tough because:it feels like it widens the divideand pulls heavily on your heartstringsAs a parent of teens, I get it.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast, it’s an honor to spend this time with you.If you’re feeling like you haven’t quite found a solution to how to empower your daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures, this episode is for you.And hopefully it’ll make it easier for you and your daughter to learn and grow together, too.Signature SystemAfter years of working with teens and their families, I think you’ll see that the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:Developing a strong sense of selfCreating meaningful educational experiencesDesigning healthy social scenariosFostering a connective family lifeNot only offer your daughter the tools she needs to step into her personal power, recognize when to lead and when to follow, and mitigate the negative effects of social media.They also help you learn how to navigate these teen rites of passage.If you’re not familiar with my signature system, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen, you’ll find more information and the full show notes for this podcast on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.What’s HappeningOkay, here’s the downlow on … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand.”The likelihood that these statements are true, is pretty high.It’s less about trying to drive you crazy or push you away, and more about your daughter feeling overwhelmed and confused herself.And as a caring, resourceful and hardworking parent, you likely encourage your daughter to be a critical thinker in order to solve her problems.Critical thinking is an essential life skill.But sometimes relationships are messy, and miscommunications happen - and there’s not a clear answer or approach.You may even see the wheels turning as your daughter attempts to figure out or fix her situation.And recognize that she's caught in a negative thought loop, which, as you know, isn’t helpful.If you’re not familiar with how negative thought loops influence your daughter’s mood and motivation, you may want to familiarize yourself with the top 6 thinking errors in Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thin
