About this episode
Hey Parents,Are you sometimes bewildered by your daughter’s friendships?This might be a little TMI, but as a sensitive teenage girl learning how to navigate the complexities of the teen girl social network, I discovered pretty quickly that there were certain people I wasn’t gonna let see ME sweat.Because being vulnerable was considered a weakness. But it turns out, that keeping certain things securely under lock and key weren’t quite as easy as I’d hoped. So, I ask you, what happens when your daughter’s toughest social challenge, her frenemy, is part of her tribe?Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast episode #23.Where we’re going to talk about two social pitfalls your daughter will want to avoid and the one simple skill that’ll keep her socially strong and steady. The FrenemyFirst, let’s touch on what a frenemy is and what it looks like for teenage girls.A ‘frenemy’ is defined as “a person that is friendly toward another because the relationship brings benefits, but harbors feelings of resentment or rivalry.” (Dictionary.com)Does this sound familiar to you? If it doesn’t, BUT, you see your daughter always trying to “fix” her social situations, you may want to share a popular article from my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens, titled, 4 Powerful Ways Your Teenage Daughter Can Help A Friend Who’s StrugglingBecause although teenage girls are passionate about helping each other, sometimes, even with the best intentions, helpful approaches can backfire. If you’re wondering …is my daughter experiencing a frenemy-like relationship, here are two examples that’ll help make sense of the frenemy dynamic.1. The frenemy is super nice when she wants to impress others, or the members in her tribe, because of the “perceived” social benefits. 2. But one-on-one or in a small group setting where there aren’t any “perceived” social benefits, the frenemy is often manipulative, overly critical, and sometimes downright verbally unkind.The hard part is this behavior is often the result of resentment or rivalry.The good news is, if you pull back the layers of resentment and rivalry, the emotions are there to help you learn and grow.That’s why we offer 3 Actionable Solutions to stop feeling jealous and create what you really want in Podcast Episode #21.Because for passionate, connection seeking teens, this is tough stuff. Find the full Show Notes on my website, https://cultivatingresilientte
