They're NOT gaslighting you! Dr. Isabelle Morley on the weaponization of therapy speak

I’ve never highlighted a book as much as They’re Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship. It's my favorite book in 2025!Watch the Video InterviewAuthor Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms: SociopathPsychopathLove bombNarcissistBoundariesBorderlineToxicGaslightingWho is Dr. Isabelle Morley?Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume:Author of Navigating Intimacy and They’re Not Gaslighting YouCo-host of the podcast Romcom RescueContributor to Psychology TodayAdvisory Board Member of the Keepler appFounding Board Member of UCANMember of the American Psychological AssociationCertified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015Doctoral project researching hookup culture’s impact on relationship formation, 2015Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011My Fatima StoryI dated a woman for two years. Let’s call her Fatima.In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above.After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I’m a narcissist? Let’s look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.”She agreed. Perplexity wrote:To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include:Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements.Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal loveEntitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations.