God, Please Change My Spouse! What to Do When Your Marriage Expectations Don’t Match Reality

God, Please Change My Spouse! What to Do When Your Marriage Expectations Don’t Match Reality

47:58 Mar 4, 2026
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Are you praying that the person you married becomes more like the person you THOUGHT you married? In this episode, you'll discover why praying "God, please change my wife / husband" may not be the right kind of prayer... and how you can build a thriving marriage by focusing on personal growth, realistic expectations, and true understanding.Marriage can be beautiful, but it comes with some real challenges—especially when the quirks and habits that once seemed cute become real irritants. To help you navigate this common struggle in marriage, Steve and Mary Alessi explore how to identify when a quirk is just that—and when a situation may warrant setting up healthy boundaries. If you're looking for practical, faith-based advice to strengthen your relationship, avoid common pitfalls, and find humor in the journey, this episode is for you. Whether you're newly married or decades in, you'll walk away with actionable insights for building a marriage that lasts.Key topics in this episode:Why praying for your spouse to change may be the wrong approachThe "couch dance": How dating evolves into marriageHandling personality differences and minor irritantsWhen to set boundaries for serious issuesDon't forget to subscribe, leave a comment, and share with friends who need encouragement for their marriage journey. Family is everybody's business!Support the showJOIN THE FAMILY BUSINESS WITH OUR NEWSLETTER Sign Up for Our Family Business Newsletter and get more inside news from the Alessis + tips and strategies for a happier family! Get free access to the newsletter TEXT THE FAMILY BUSINESS DIRECTLY You can connect with us via text to ask family questions and get updates on The Family Business! Text FAMILY to 302-524-0800 CONNECT WITH THE FAMILY BUSINESS Follow Us on Instagram and Facebook Subscribe on YouTube Leave a review MORE PODCASTS YOU'LL ENJOY Listen to the Alessi sisters' daily devotional podcast My Morning Devotional Follow Our New Podcast with Mary Alessi and her twin sister Martha Munizzi Watch The Mary and Martha Show
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