About this episode
I had the pleasure of interviewing “So.” A member of our community who has just gotten her ex back,
In the interview we talk about things like,
The breakup that led up to the reconciliation. 0:01
Meet the woman who got back together with her ex.
The dark times.
The first Christmas apart from her boyfriend.
The first serious boyfriend.
The grieving period before moving forward. 3:32
Being kicked out of the house.
The grieving period after the divorce.
Crying, ice cream and watching movies.
How long it took him to give it his all.
How did you find out about the other woman? 7:22
He got back in contact in January this year.
He wants to change relationship dynamics.
Being kicked to the curb again.
How to cope with the no contact situation.
What were you doing during the no contact? 11:35
No contact, meetup groups, gym, therapy and therapy.
End date for no contact.
Breaking the no-contact rule three or four times.
Building up a relationship.
How to deal with the fear of rejection. 16:00
Mentally and emotionally affected by the cycle.
Holding boundaries for yourself.
Cold turkey, no contact, no explanation.
Fearful avoidance, anxious and avoidant responses.
What happened with the other woman? 19:27
What happened with the other woman.
How his ex is handling his grief.
Holding boundaries and not ignoring calls and texts.
No contact for 45 days.
Setting the boundary on no contact. 23:22
Breaking up with her boyfriend.
No contact, no contact and no contact.
Coming out of his shell and asking for her back.
Being upfront and honest.
Holding boundaries and setting boundaries. 28:54
Hedging his bets with probing questions.
Lying on the hook for a bit.
The fear of loss aspect worked on him.
The difference between this and the previous go-around.
Advice on how to get help. 32:16
Getting professional help to make the relationship stronger.
Taking responsibility for the relationship.
The most important tactics that got her to success.
The no contact rule.
Interview Transcript:
Chris Seiter 00:01
This meeting is being recorded. All right, today, we have a very amazing success story we have. So who has been kind enough to come on here and basically give us the rundown of her entire situation on how her and her ex have gotten back together. So thank you so much for coming in doing this. Yeah, cause so is this is this pretty recent?
