About this episode
Today I’m going to answer the age old question on if 4 months of no contact is too long after a breakup.
Let’s just jump right into it,
I personally believe that 4 months of no contact is too long because most exes will have begun to move on from you by that point.
So really, I guess it’s a function of figuring out what you want out of your situation.
Do you want to get your ex back? If so, then you might want to employ a shorter no contact period.
Do you want to get over your ex? Well then, 4 months of no contact might be right up your ally.
But let’s jump into the discussion portion of this because what I thought might end up being an incredibly boring one turned into a fascinating one when I ended up starting the research portion.
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Why 4 Months Of No Contact Is A Big No No
So, the crux of my argument is going to center around two concepts.
The average length of time it takes to get over a breakup
The habit rule.
So, generally there are three time frames we associate with no contact.
The 21 Day Rule
The 30 Day Rule
The 45 Day Rule
These three time frames all have different “situational” implementations which I cover here.
Fun fact though, a little later in this discussion I’ve actually started toying around with the idea of shifting how you choose the ideal no contact for you.
But notice how none of the three timeframes even kiss close to the 120 days of the four month mark. This is very much by design.
The Average Length Of Time It Takes To Get Over A Breakup
It doesn’t take much to figure out how long it takes to get over a breakup. All one needs to do is simp
