About this episode
If you've ever laughed out loud and immediately braced for something bad to follow, or found yourself scanning for what's wrong the moment something finally feels right, this episode is for you. Betrayal trauma doesn't just break your heart — it breaks your nervous system's ability to trust that good things are safe to feel. In this episode, I unpack the psychology behind foreboding joy, anticipatory anxiety, and hypervigilance after betrayal, including why your brain actually rewards negative prediction, and why that pattern is not a character flaw. Drawing on Ronnie Janoff-Bulman's assumptive world theory, Brené Brown's research on foreboding joy, and Frank Corrigan's somatic trauma work, I walk you through my SHORE framework — a body-based practice for moving from chronic hypervigilance toward regulated discernment. SHORE stands for: Soften the brace, Honor the strategy, Orient to the now, Resource from the inside, and Expand the window for good. Because you don't need to predict the future to be safe. You only need to trust that you can handle it — and this episode shows you how to start building that from the inside out.________________✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 Click here to register💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practi
