About this episode
In this deeply introspective and emotionally charged episode of That’s My Time Podcast, Tolu Afilaka sits with Olushola Olaleye for a profound conversation about masculinity, vulnerability, spiritual responsibility, success, pain, leadership, and the silent emotional battles men fight daily.From the first moment, it becomes clear that this episode is not entertainment it's therapy, mentorship, and revelation wrapped into one. Whether you’re a man trying to understand yourself or a woman trying to understand men, this conversation will shift your mindset forever.Olushola Olaleye takes us through the story of his calling, the spiritual nudges that shaped him, and the mentorship of Pastor Emmanuel Iren that grounded and refined his purpose. He speaks openly about his mother’s sacrifice after losing his father, the humility she instilled, and how her resilience became the foundation of his emotional and spiritual maturity.This episode explores childhood wounds, the pressure of parental expectations, how success is actually maintained, and why self-leadership not talent—is the true mark of greatness. We dive into masculinity, male emotional repression, why men struggle to open up, and the staggering reality of suicide among men worldwide.The conversation goes deeper into relationships, marriage preparation, adulthood, societal pressure, and the burden many African men carry. Pastor Olaleye confronts cultural misconceptions, unlearning toxic masculinity, empathy for men, and how emotional maturity is essential for building healthy homes.We also touch on AI’s disruption of jobs, what young Nigerians need to survive the future, and the kind of leadership he would implement if he were president.This episode is raw, insightful, confronting, and healing. Share it with every man and every woman who loves a man.TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – 15:00 The Calling, The Presence & Early Spiritual Nudges• Introduction to Pastor Olushola Olaleye• Tolu reflects on his grace, presence, and spiritual weight• How Olaleye knew he was called from childhood15:00 – 30:00 | Childhood Pain, His Mother’s Strength & Foundations of Masculinity• Losing his father and watching his mother carry the family• Lessons of humility, tenderness, compassion• How pain shaped his emotional intelligence• Accepting spiritual responsibility early• How upbringing prepared him for deeper leadership• The moment he reali
