About this episode
What do you do when the relationship is good, but the sex is boring?In part two of my conversation with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacey Friedman, we talk about what really happens to sexual relationships over time. We move beyond the idea of “dead bedrooms” and dive into boredom, communication, novelty, and the evolving nature of intimacy in midlife.We explore how to talk to a partner about disappointing sex without damaging their ego. Dr. Stacey Friedman explains why many couples lose desire simply because their sex life becomes predictable. And she shares practical ways to bring novelty back into the bedroom without pressure or shame.The conversation also explores topics many couples are curious about but rarely discuss openly. Alternative relationship structures, sexual exploration later in life, and how to redefine sex as connection rather than performance.If part one opened the door to rebuilding intimacy, part two shows how curiosity, communication, and creativity keep desire alive long term.In this episode:00:00 Welcome Back And Part Two Overview00:35 Karen’s Story About The “Lazy Lover”02:05 How To Talk About Bad Sex Without Hurting Ego03:30 Curiosity Instead Of Criticism04:40 Why So Many Couples Are Bored In Bed05:45 The Importance Of Novelty In Long Term Sex06:55 The Roller Coaster Analogy For Predictable Sex08:00 Simple Ways To Add Variety And Playfulness09:05 When Couples Consider Opening Their Relationship10:30 Why Alternative Relationships Sometimes Work11:55 Ad Break. Lem By Hello Nancy12:55 A Real Example Of A Couple Who Opened Their Relationship13:45 Navigating Midlife Changes In Sex And Desire14:40 The Daily Question That Strengthens Relationships15:25 Dr. Stacey’s Definition Of Sex15:55 Best Orgasm And Sexual Exploration16:15 Final Advice. Curiosity Keeps Desire Alive Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
