About this episode
Low libido and mismatched desire are not just about hormones. In this episode, I sit down with Coral Osborne, former escort turned intimacy coach for high-performing men, to break down what is really driving disconnection in relationships.We get into what men are not saying, why performance anxiety is rising, and how shame shapes desire. Coral shares what she learned from working with men in both sex work and coaching. The patterns are the same. Men feel pressure to perform, hide their needs, and avoid vulnerability.We talk about why sex is rarely just about sex. It reflects how you communicate, how you handle rejection, and how safe you feel expressing your truth. If you or your partner are dealing with mismatched desire, this episode gives you a deeper lens and practical starting points.In This Episode:00:00 Intro00:42 Why Low Libido Is Misunderstood02:10 Coral’s Story From Sex Work to Coaching05:20 What Men Really Wanted Behind Closed Doors08:10 Why Sex Is Rarely About Sex10:05 The Shame Driving Male Desire12:00 Performance Anxiety Explained14:10 Porn, Pressure, and Unreal Expectations16:05 Why Men Struggle With Vulnerability18:00 Erectile Issues and the Nervous System20:10 The “Nice Guy” Trap in Relationships22:10 How to Start Fixing Mismatched Desire23:50 What to Expect in Part TwoWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube:
