About this episode
Open relationships sound exciting to some — and absolutely terrifying to others. But what really happens when you open up your marriage? Can it save your relationship… or destroy it?In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Pace, a licensed professional counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and former Army medic turned intimacy expert. Kelvin brings courage, compassion, and clinical insight to one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships — consensual non-monogamy.We talk about what it means to open a marriage consciously and ethically, how to navigate jealousy without shame, and why community and communication matter more than ever. Kelvin also shares how mindfulness and sensate focus can help couples reconnect with pleasure — without the pressure of performance.If you’ve ever wondered whether open relationships can actually work — or what it takes to make them work — this conversation will challenge your assumptions and maybe even your boundaries.Timestamps:00:00 – What really happens when you open your marriage?00:43 – Meet Kelvin Pace02:06 – Sex surrogates and sensate focus explained04:11 – How mindfulness changes sex06:56 – Defining open relationships and polyamory08:46 – The myth of compersion and toxic non-monogamy10:31 – Managing jealousy and emotional regulation12:46 – Stay tuned for part 2!Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
