About this episode
Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom.We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate.Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men05:12 How habits train performance in bed06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy38:10 Wrap-up. Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.insta
