About this episode
Men, sex, and aging without the macho script. I sit down with Dr. Chris Donaghue—clinical sexologist, therapist, and host of Loveline—to unpack masculinity, libido, and connection in midlife. We dig into why “being a man” often blocks intimacy, how to get out of performance mode, and what it takes to be a better partner after 50.We talk practical dating resets, equity vs. equality on first dates, why vibrators shouldn’t threaten anyone, and how to build a personal “relational mission statement.” If you’re newly single or just ready to evolve, this episode gives you a clear path back into your body, your values, and real intimacy.Timestamps:00:00 Intro: Men, sex, and aging without the script01:12 Meet Dr. Chris Donaghue & why masculinity needs a reset03:08 “Disidentifying” from gender roles to become a better partner05:02 Getting back into your body vs. performing intimacy06:45 Values, ethics, and your relational mission statement08:36 America’s performance culture and its impact on love10:10 Dating mindset: “The person you date is in your care”12:04 Childhood socialization: boys vs. girls and empathy gaps14:06 Rewriting the “strong man” expectation with softness15:32 Who pays? Equality vs. equity on first dates17:34 The confusion men feel: strong vs. vulnerable on demand19:02 Emotional literacy: what men are “allowed” to feel20:05 Sex talk: scripts, vibrators, and de-centering orgasm22:11 How to date Karen: knowledge gaps, boundaries, and media23:40 Public work ≠ no boundaries: consent and respect25:02 “What are you working on?”—owning your growth26:36 Therapy vs. “I coached myself”: why guidance matters28:05 Practical first steps for newly single men29:40 Libido as life energy: bringing passion back31:02 Best sex isn’t performance—it’s connection31:55 Wrap up + where to find Dr. DonaghueWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:
