About this episode
Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame.Timestamps:00:00 Why performance culture kills connection02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasyWatch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! https://youtu.be/WGPTHeP-eP0Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube:
