About this episode
Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-19-26&el=podcast After a fight with a Dismissive Avoidant, it can feel like they shut down completely, emotionally unavailable, distant, and unaffected. But what looks like indifference on the outside is often a complex internal process happening beneath the surface. Understanding what’s really going on can change everything, especially if you want to stop chasing, over-explaining, or losing yourself in the process. ? Episode Summary In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the 4 internal stages a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style typically experiences after a conflict or argument. You’ll learn why dismissive avoidants shut down, distance, and deactivate, not because they don’t care, but because emotional intensity feels unsafe at a nervous system level. This episode is essential if you: Are in a relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant Feel confused by shutdown, stonewalling, or emotional distance after conflict Want to respond in a way that supports connection without self-betrayal Or are a dismissive avoidant wanting to understand your own internal process ? Key Takeaways ? Why shutdown and stonewalling are self-protection strategies ? What Dismissive Avoidants are actually trying to escape after conflict ? The distancing stage and internal deactivation dialogue ? How space (when respected) leads to emotional recovery ? Why reconnection happens slowly and why pushing backfires ? The curiosity and learning stage, when growth becomes possible ? How codependent patterns keep conflict cycles stuck ? TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – What Happens to Dismissive Avoidants After an Argument? 00:36 – Stage 1: Shutdown or Stonewalling 01:58 – Stage 2: Distancing 03:55 – Stage 3: Recovery and Connection 04:57 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 05:18 – Stage 4: Curiosity and Learning Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: ? Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast ? Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopment
