About this episode
Kinky sex, vulvar-vaginal healing, and redefining what intimacy can be—Kawena shares about reclaiming pleasure, unlearning porn narratives, and building safer, more loving connections.? PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod!BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | beducate.me/lovernyeÜBERLUBE: the BEST personal lubricantLORALS: FDA-cleared latex lingerie | Use the code LOVER for 10% offFIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% offSHAMELESS CARE: Sex positive healthcare | Use the code LOVER for $15 offMOTORBUNNY: Sex machines & riding toysSDC: A place for swingers to connect? STATS | 25 bisexual cis woman, she/her pronouns, kinky switch, in a currently monogamous relationship, has chronic vulvar and vaginal pain, tattoo apprentice, bartender, from Hawai’i, into: kink, foot worship and play, stepping on necks, pegging, period sex, mutual masturbation, dirty talk, smut, erotic audio, and experiencing other people’s pleasure? TIME CODE00:00 What feels sexy now: confidence, kindness, and living in alignment 05:03 Attraction beyond looks and why personality creates desire 10:21 Values, politics, and feeling turned on by how someone moves through the world 15:18 Learning safety through communication, crying, and being met with care 20:03 Realizations about past sexual experiences and creating safety 25:14 Early porn exposure, talking with her mom, and separating porn from real life sex 30:18 First sexual relationships and learning desirability without true consent 35:31 Shame, objectification, and the emotional impact of early experiences 40:44 Redefining “good sex,” orgasms, and pleasure without performance pressure 46:02 Anxiety, excitement, and how bodies respond to emotional intimacy 51:36 Her partner’s grief and finding connection during major life transitions 56:48 Talking about sex as foreplay and building trust through conversation
