About this episode
Catholic school guilt, yoga awakenings, deep pressure, and a love of very hard, very large erections—Rachael shares how motherhood, bodywork, and a decades-long love story transformed a vanilla marriage into an intuitive, pleasure-filled Dom/sub dynamic.? PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod!BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | Use the code LOVER for 50% off your yearly membership | beducate.me/LOVERÜBERLUBE: the BEST personal lubricantLORALS: FDA-cleared latex lingerie | Use the code LOVER for 10% offFIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% offSHAMELESS CARE: Sex positive healthcare | Use the code LOVER for $15 offMOTORBUNNY: Sex machines & riding toysSDC: A place for swingers to connect? STATS | 39 bisexual white cis female, she/her pronouns, kinky BDSM novice, in a long-term monogamous marriage, educator, yoga instructor, massage therapist, writer, artist, from the East Coast, into: black lace, leather, mouth sounds, ASMR, ladies with tattoos, sensory play toys, and big strong erections.? TIME CODE00:00 Growing up curious about sex and navigating Catholic school shame02:23 Discovering comfort, ease, and confidence as the sexiest turn-ons05:43 Shifting from vanilla to a soft Dom/sub marriage after 25 years together07:54 Learning self-love through sensory care, baths, and body connection10:45 Safety, contraception, and the journey through pregnancies and vasectomy13:03 From contracts to intuition: evolving kink and communication16:03 How bisexuality and honesty deepened their long-term relationship18:00 Balancing desire, logistics, and connection as parents and partners23:10 Early sex ed, shame, rebellion, and attraction to girls32:16 Finding healing and deep pressure through sex and touch40:52 Yoga, embodiment, and learning self-pleasure later in life
