About this episode
What’s a skill that can instantly improve your relationships, communication, and even your influence? In this episode, Yael talks with Caroline Fleck, a licensed psychologist and author of Validation, to unpack exactly that.
Caroline explains what validation really is, how it’s different from empathy or sympathy, and why it can be so powerful in both personal and professional relationships.
They walk you through how validation first gained traction in therapy, especially in dialectical behavior therapy, and Caroline shares simple techniques like attending, copying, and proposing that anyone can use.
You’ll get Caroline’s take on the challenge of validating someone when you strongly disagree, the role of self-disclosure in connection, and how our understanding of emotions has shifted from classic microexpressions to a more nuanced view of emotional experience.
If you’re looking for practical ways to build better relationships and truly connect, this episode is full of insight.
Listen and Learn:
What is validation?
Why feeling truly seen and accepted is the key to deeper trust, love, and real connection in your life
How invalidation can be toxic to your relationships and how empathy and validation actually heal them
Can validation help you connect with someone even if you don’t agree or relate to their situation?
How accepting someone else's view first can actually boost your influence and get you heard more often
The simple act of repeating exact words in conflict helps fights cool down and allows real conversations to happen
Why messing up shows you’re trying to truly understand, and how that keeps the connection real
Why you don’t have to agree with someone’s whole view to validate it; just find the part that makes sense
How to be open, but balanced, to create space for real connection and trust to grow
Resources:
Validation: How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life
https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593541210
Visit Caroline’s website: https://drcarolinefleck.com/
Connect with Caroline on social media:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolinefleck/
https://www.instagram.com/carolinefleckphd/
