About this episode
Send us a Positive Review!If Episode 384 (the one right before this one!) addresses the larger psychological question of why the holidays & family events can be extra challenging and painful for those on the LDS faith expansion journey--then this episode answers the equally relevant follow up question: What can I actually do to maximize my potential to feel present and grounded at these holiday events? In today's episode, Val focuses in on two prevalent kinds of LDS family systems that she has heard about over and over again in her work in LDS faith crisis/expansion: the authoritarian structure and her newly coined term, the 'adherent/apologetic' family structure. If either of these family structures ring a bell then her "four critical safety pillars"— might help you navigate these challenging family gatherings with grace for your own nervous system and grace for your doing-their best loved ones. Whether you're dealing with strict authoritarian dynamics or the anxiety-laden avoidance of adherent-apologetic families, Valerie's thoughtful strategies and encouragement will empower you to stay true to yourself while maintaining meaningful connections. Tune in to transform your holiday stress into an opportunity for growth and understanding.Wait, there's more! **Want to catch the first part of this conversation and not a Friday Fellow? Jump to the show notes for more info on how to catch this whole conversation! **Need more to prepare? Val has prepared an ebook companion to episodes 384 and 385. Jump to the show notes for more information on this excellent resource as well! https://valeriehamaker.com/downloads/navigating-family-faith-during-the-holidays/Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction and Episode Overview.00:44 – Navigating Family Dynamics During the Holidays02:00 – The Impact of Faith Transitions on Family Interactions03:00 – Context for the Episode and Friday Fellowship04:00 – Understanding Different Family Structures05:00 – The Psychology Behind Family Types05:57 – Authoritarian Family Dynamics07:04 – Adaptive Family Dynamics08:00 – Navigating Adaptive Family Interactions09:03 – Adherent Apologetic Family Dynamics10:30 – Indirect Communication and Triangulation12:31 – Practical Tips for Holiday Interactions14:00 – The Importance of Personal Choice and Boundaries16:51 – Pillar 1: Internal Safety20:00 – Tools for Internal Safety23:30 – Pillar 2: Relational Safety27:00 – Strategies for Relational Safety30:00 – Practicing Differentiation and Respect34:52 – Pillar 3: Environmental Safety36:30 – Setting Boundaries Around Particip
