You Didn't Choose Your Attachment Style, but Here's How You Can Change It - With Jessica Baum

Most people think their relationship problems are about the other person. They're not — they're about an 18-month-old version of you who learned the only way to survive. In this episode, psychotherapist Jessica Baum breaks down why your nervous system is still running a programme it wrote in infancy. Attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised — aren't personality quirks. They're adaptive strategies your brain built when connection was a matter of survival. The anxious person who chases, the avoidant who disappears, the couple stuck in a loop they can't explain — it all traces back to the same source: early experiences that taught your body what to expect from closeness. Understanding that isn't just interesting. It's the beginning of actually changing it. Your attachment style isn't fixed — it shifts depending on who you're with Co-regulation isn't neediness — it's how the nervous system was designed to heal The goal isn't independence. It's interdependence — being whole and connected If your relationships keep following the same painful script, this episode is where you start rewriting it. SPONSORS ??? ???NordStellar??? Cyber threat visibility across your business 10% off: GROWTHMINDSET-10 ??????????https://nordstellar.com/growthmindset/??? ?? ?NOCD? Struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help Book a free 15 min call ?https://learn.nocd.com/growthmindset? NEW SHOW - ????????????????????????How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation???????????????????????? Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - ?????????????????????????????????????????????????https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT????????????????????????????????????????????????? Apple - ?????????????????????????????????????????????????https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649????????????????????????????????????????????????? --- UPGRADE to