You're Not Losing, You're Lasting

If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.You’ll learn:What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noiseHow to know if your attorney is playing defense—or building a quiet offenseWhat questions to ask if you’re unsure who’s really fighting for youPower Line:“You’re not losing. You’re lasting.”Because lasting takes more strength than lashing out.Next Steps:Ask your attorney: Are we being tactical or just quiet?Get clear on the plan. If they’re prepping depositions, trial outlines, or settlement proposals—they’re moving.If they’re not? It might be time for a second opinion. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.