About this episode
Colette Jane Fehr a marriage counselor, EMDR therapist, and author of "The Cost of Quiet." With over two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate relationship challenges, Colette specializes in teaching people how to communicate vulnerably and assertively in their most important relationships. Episode Overview In this powerful conversation, Dr. Debi Silber sits down with therapist and author Colette Fehr to explore why speaking up in relationships is essential for healing, growth, and genuine connection—especially after betrayal. Colette shares her personal journey from childhood trauma to relationship betrayal, and how these experiences shaped her understanding of healthy communication and the devastating cost of staying quiet. Key Topics Discussed The Origins of Conflict Avoidance How childhood experiences with parental conflict shape our relationship patterns The difference between destructive conflict (screaming, fighting) and constructive conflict (honest, vulnerable communication) Why some people mistake silence and "keeping the peace" for relationship health
