About this episode
What started as a goal-setting meeting eventually became one of the most grounding rhythms in our marriage.
In this episode, my husband and I sit down together to share the end-of-year date we’ve been returning to for over a decade—not because we’re disciplined or perfect, but because life moves fast and marriage needs tending.
We talk honestly about:
Why this tradition didn’t start as a spiritual practice
How chasing goals and achievement left us misaligned
What shifted when we invited God not just into our plans, but over our year
What this date actually looks like (spoiler: it’s simple, sometimes messy, and never fancy)
How reflecting before planning has steadied our marriage through busy, uncertain, and hard seasons
This conversation isn’t about productivity or having it all figured out. It’s about pausing long enough to see each other again, listening for God’s voice together, and choosing alignment over achievement.
If you’re a mama craving intention, connection, and a marriage rhythm that brings peace instead of pressure, this episode is an invitation to slow down and pull up a chair.
Marriage isn’t something you perfect.
It’s something you return to.
If you want to learn how to embrace the Dirt on your journey, come join me over on Substack at kawailani.substack.com
