About this episode
?It’s hard to know what to do when your husband says he doesn’t love you anymore. If this has happened to you, here’s what you need to know.
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Transcript: What to Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Love You
Anne: Today we’re gonna cover what happens when your husband says he doesn’t love you anymore. We have a member of our community on today’s episode. We’re gonna call her Denise. This happened to her. Here’s a preview of what she said.
“I felt like he hates me. He hates my guts. I had asked him , “When did your heart turn against me?” So then he tells me…”
You’ll find out what he tells her later on in the story.
If this has happened to you, where your husband has told you he doesn’t love you anymore. Here are two things to consider.
Number one, get educated about emotional and psychological abuse because there’s a chance that this is part of your story, even if it doesn’t seem like it. You’ll hear about how Denise’s husband used two psychological abuse tactics: mirroring and countering. So as you listen, see if you can identify when that happens. And number, two is to observe their actions. And I’ll talk more about that in today’s interview.
So welcome, Denise.
When your Husband Says He doesn’t Love you
Denise: Yeah, I met my ex online. I was in my 40s and had never been married. I always said I didn’t want to get married until I met the one. Like, the one, and I made sure, because I didn’t want a bad marriage. Um, turns out that I apparently didn’t know what that looked like.
So Yeah, he’d been, married before, was a widower, he took care of his late wife, and, seemed to be financially responsible.
The first date was great.
But then on the next date, we went for a hike, and I was asking him questions, and he couldn’t answer simple questions, like, what’s your favorite movie?
Maybe He’s Just Not Ready
Denise: The third date was just awkward, something feels off. And I told him I wouldn’t date him.
I didn’t think he was ready for a relationship, like maybe he needed to heal some more.
Anne: How long after his wife’s death did you start?
Denise: Like three and a half months
So I told him I wouldn’t date him.
But we were hanging out as friends and we would argue all the time. People would say, “what are you arguing about?” Like, I don’t even know, I don’t know what we were arguing about. It was really confusing to me because I’m not a really argumentative person, but fo
