About this episode
Many women spend years (and thousands of dollars) hiring a therapist codependency? expert after someone convinces them they are the problem.
If someone has labeled you “codependent” because you reacted to your husband’s problematic behavior, stop for a moment. Before you schedule therapy, understand this: you may not need to fix yourself — you may need to protect yourself.
You May NOt Need a Therapist Codependency Expert, You MIght Be Seeking Emotional Safety
Often, betrayal trauma victims (women who have experienced their husband’s lies or betrayal) are doing anything they can to save their marriage, not understanding what’s actually been happening. Women in this situation are rightfully trying to protect themselves, which is always good. But some people want to put these healthy behaviors in a negative light. They call her codependent, misleading her.
They tell her to blame herself: “What have YOU done to contribute to the problem?” This wrong advice helps the abuser continue to harm her. It also makes it harder for the victim to set healthy boundaries.
But What If I’m Actually Codependent?
Many women find that after they create distance between herself and emotional and psychological abuse, what they thought were “character flaws” often fade away. These traits were really healthy resistance to abuse. To find out if you’ve been experiencing emotional abuse, here’s my free emotional abuse test.
Transcript: Hiring a Therapist Codependency Expert, Know This First
This episode follows Felicia’s StoryPart 1: Before Hiring a Therapist Codependency Expert, Know This First (THIS EPISODE)Part 2: Divorce and Emotional Abuse – Felicia Checks in 9 Months Later
Anne: I have a member of our community, we’re going to call her Felicia, on today’s episode. Welcome, Felicia.
Felicia: Thank you.
Anne: I’m so grateful you’re sharing your story with us. We’re going to be addressing the label of cod
