About this episode
A father’s words can build his kids up or tear them down. They are powerful, and can stick with kids for the rest of their lives. That’s why we have to watch what we say. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how often we (even accidentally) say the wrong thing and what uplifting things we should be saying instead.Why This MattersThe words we use with our kids can build up or tear down. We must choose them wisely.Things to Stop Saying to Sons1. “You can’t do it.”2. “You’re not strong enough.” Or “Don’t be a wimp.” 3. “I’m disappointed in you.”4. “I’m working on something important. You’ll have to wait.”Things to Stop Saying to Daughters1. “Have you gained/lost weight?”2. “Stop being so dramatic.”3. “You’re just like your mother.”4. “Oh, but you’re so pretty.”5. “If you had done ______, you could have done even better.” Things to START Saying Instead1. “I love you.”2. “I’m grateful to be your dad.”3. “I believe in you.”Important Episode Timestamps00:00:48 – 02:41 | Why Your Anger Isn’t Really About Your Kids02:41 – 05:12 | The Hidden Triggers Behind Dad Reactions05:12 – 07:36 | The Difference Between Discipline and Control07:36 – 10:18 | Parenting From Pressure vs. Parenting From Purpose10:18 – 12:44 | How Stress Leaks Into Your Tone and Body Language12:44 – 15:03 | The 5-Second Pause That Changes Everything15:03 – 17:29 | Repairing After You Lose Your Cool17:29 – 19:58 | Teaching Kids Emotional Regulation by Modeling It19:58 – 22:11 | Breaking the Generational Pattern of Anger22:11 – End | The Dad Challenge: Lead Yourself First APD Pro Move:Give your kids a new affirmation every day this week.All Pro Dad Resources: Episode 8 – What Are 7 Things A Son Needs From His Dad?Episode 9 – What Are 7 Things A Daughter Needs From Her Dad?Episode 87 – How Can I Connect With My Kids?We love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on
